Sexual Tips by Kevin Pezzi, MD

Answers to your questions about sexual attraction, pleasure, performance, and libido.

You've come to the right place if you are looking for sexual information that is both credible and on the cutting edge. I am a physician who graduated in the top 1% of my class in medical school, and I've spent years thereafter learning about sex by reading extensively. I have conducted innovative research, and I am also an inventor. About 10% of my 700 or so inventions pertain to sex, and some of them can give you pleasure in ways that will surpass your most imaginative dreams. If you read this web site and my book The Science of Sex, you'll realize that I am not one of those authors who rehashes what other writers have said again and again. I will discuss basic information whenever necessary, but I won't cover elementary topics such as how to put on a condom. If you want Sex Ed 101 stuff, you can get it from thousands of other sources. Here is what I have to offer:

An extensive knowledge of sex. Perhaps you expect doctors to be knowledgeable about sex, but I assure you that I can leave your family doctor and sex therapist (if you have one) in the dust when it comes to sexual information.

Information that you can't get elsewhere. Read a few dozen sex books by other authors. Now read my book. You will see in-depth discussions in my book of topics that other authors never cover.

Intelligent, reasonable analyses with a blunt, pull-no-punches approach. I've read virtually every book that is even remotely similar to mine, including ones written by physicians. These books tend to either be jam-packed with boring old facts, or written so simplistically ("This herb might work . . . it's worth a try") that it could be emulated by an average high school student. I won't waste your time passing along these vague generalizations and namby-pamby equivocations. Some authors use this wishy-washy approach to camouflage their lack of knowledge. Sometimes definitive answers have not yet been provided by science since funding sexual research is not a priority, but an author should be able to offer informed opinions if he is knowledgeable about anatomy, physiology, biochemistry, and the many other subjects that are crucial to a deep and comprehensive understanding of sexuality.

An open, frank, and personal approach. Many sex authors tend to write in a sterile, cold, and impersonal manner that leaves me wondering if they've ever had sex. I've learned a lot from my formal education and avid pursuit of this subject in subsequent years, but I've also learned a lot by having sex. Let's face it: some sex subjects cannot be investigated in the usual way with double-blind studies. Sometimes the only way to pass along information is to discuss what I've learned in the bedroom, not what I learned years ago in a lecture. My personal revelations aren't the typical anecdotes you might hear from any Tom, Dick, or Harry because my extensive scientific background enables me to put two and two together to draw valuable conclusions from those experiences. It won't do you much good to hear someone marveling how great something felt, or complaining about a lack of satisfaction, unless that person is knowledgeable enough to explain what accounted for that variation in sexual pleasure.

The ability to connect the dots and give you useful insights from information that superficially seems unrelated to sex. Most sexologists make one major mistake: they spend their professional education time reading about sex. Just sex. I read about sex, but I also read about dozens of other subjects. This ancillary reading often gives me information that is very relevant to sex even though it seemingly pertains just to chemistry, physics, engineering, materials science, or other nonsexual fields.

Eye-opening discussions in which I repudiate longstanding sexual myths. For example, "experts" have long maintained that a penis cannot be enlarged once it reaches its adult size at the end of puberty. The evidence for this seems overwhelming, doesn't it? Just one problem: it is wrong. Experts are becoming hoarse trashing the penile enlargement pill ads in the back of men's magazines. They're correct about one thing: those pills don't work, and they're a waste of money. However, penile enlargement is possible — just not using the old ineffectual ways. Another myth is that some decrease in sexual pleasure and performance is inevitable with aging. Physicians intervene in ways that seem laughably simplistic to me, such as prescribing Viagra, while ignoring more basic therapeutic interventions that can improve performance and make sex feel better than it did when you were a teenager. The culprit isn't aging, but physiological changes that can be reversed. Physicians are habitually too eager to prematurely throw in the towel and attribute all sorts of problems to aging, because that seems to absolve them of any responsibility to dig deeper. Here are more prevalent myths that are nonsense:

Myth	Fact
Breasts cannot be enlarged, except via surgery.	Breast enlargement pills don't work (another scam!), but there are several ways to enlarge breasts. Since sexual attraction is one of the subjects in my book, I discuss this topic.
Spot reduction is not possible.	Oh yes it is! This myth originated after people realized that the old ways to attempt spot reduction did not work. Didn't people once try to fly by jumping off a cliff and flapping strap-on wings? Just because early attempts are ludicrous failures does not mean that something is impossible. The world is full of things that once seemed like a pipe dream, but are now obviously possible. In the sexual attraction chapter of my book, I explain a few techniques of spot reduction and why they work. It's not based on magic or hype; it is based on sound principles of physiology that every doctor is taught in medical school. I hate to criticize my colleagues (99% of whom did not do as well in medical school as I did), but most of them are far better at memorizing than they are at conceiving breakthroughs.
It is impossible to lose weight without dieting, drugs, herbs, exercise, or surgery.	This may seem to defy common sense and seem too good to be true, and it is something that every weight loss "expert" would swear is not possible. But it works well and it isn't unpleasant, which is bound to shock people who assume that medicine must taste bad to be good. This method is so obvious to me that I once assumed someone else would surely think of it, and write a book on the subject. But no one did, so I mentioned this technique in Fascinating Health Secrets and explained it in more detail in a weight loss book.
Yogurt is good for replenishing the beneficial bacteria that normally inhabit the vagina.	This misconception is very prevalent, even amongst doctors, and I admit that I once fell for it, too. However, when I thoroughly investigated this matter, I realized that it is yet another myth that somehow took root in our culture. In The Science of Sex, I explain why yogurt can hurt your sex life. Sorry, Dannon^®.
There are no effective aphrodisiacs.	Any "expert" who claims that there are no effective aphrodisiacs is not an expert. There are several aphrodisiacs, which I cover in The Science of Sex.
Vaginal tightness is the primary variable that explains why a man derives different degrees of pleasure from sleeping with different women.	Tightness is important, but in The Science of Sex I discuss the other important variables, including one that dwarfs the importance of vaginal tightness.
The best sexual lubricants are the ones sold in stores.	Wrong. In my book, I reveal how you can make sexual lubricants at home that are better than anything you can buy, far cheaper, and all natural.
Only a few lucky women can achieve multiple orgasms during intercourse.	Yet another myth that I trounce in The Science of Sex. Any woman or man can achieve multiple orgasms.
Perfumes and colognes are good adjuncts for improving your love life.	They can actually reduce sexual attraction in some cases, and potentially diminish libido and reduce sexual pleasure. I discuss this topic in my book.
Fiber is good for you.	It may be good for your colon, but you're bound to be surprised by what it can do to your sex life, as I explain in The Science of Sex.
For people who like caffeine, it doesn't matter if they drink coffee, tea, or soft drinks.	Yes, it does matter, as I discuss in my book.
All vibrators are pretty much the same, except for obvious differences in shape, size, and intensity level.	Wrong. Vibrators also differ in their frequency of vibration, and in the vibrational waveforms they produce — both of which strongly influence the sensations they impart. I cover this topic in The Science of Sex.
Since herbs are natural, they can only help your sex life, not hurt it.	In my book, I reveal that some herbs are beneficial, while others can interfere with sexuality.
Antihypertensive drugs (those that control high blood pressure) impair sexual performance, such as contributing to impotence.	In The Science of Sex, I discuss an antihypertensive drug that actually helps.
All the good sex toys were thought of years ago.	Wrong. I hate to disparage my sexual inventions by referring to them as "toys" because some of them can reduce the spread of sexually transmitted diseases in addition to heightening pleasure, but there are indeed some innovations in this area that will put a smile on your face and make you wonder, "Why didn't I think of that?" I discuss some of these inventions in The Science of Sex.
It is impossible to know what people of the opposite sex experience during sexual activity.	Wrong again. In The Science of Sex, I will give you an unparalleled understanding of this matter.
Testosterone is only important for men.	False.
The only way to raise one's testosterone level is to see a doctor for a testosterone prescription.	Also false, as I discuss in my book.
Condoms can only diminish sexual pleasure.	Wrong. In The Science of Sex, I show how they can be used to increase pleasure.
Sexual sensation cannot be improved.	This pessimistic viewpoint is false, as I explain in The Science of Sex. Even if you now experience pleasure that is barely detectable, your sensation can be improved so that sex is exquisitely pleasurable.
Antibiotics may give women vaginal yeast infections, but once that resolves their sex lives will be unaffected.	Perhaps not, as I explain in The Science of Sex.
Kegel exercises are the only way for women to improve vaginal tightness.	Wrong. Yet another topic in The Science of Sex.
Estrogen supplementation is the best choice for postmenopausal women who desire hormone replacement therapy.	There is another choice (no, not progesterone!) that offers something that estrogen cannot, as I reveal in my book.
All jelly sex toys are safe.	Not on this planet! Many such toys are made from polymers that readily leach harmful chemicals. You guessed it — I also discuss this in my book.
Soy foods help women "balance" their estrogen levels.	This simplification is not always true. Soy foods (and other sources of phytoestrogens) can either increase your estrogen response or decrease it, and the response that many women obtain has nothing to do with their needs. This is admittedly a very complicated topic, and one that most doctors fail to appreciate, so I carefully explain it in The Science of Sex.
Dihydrotestosterone (DHT) is a bad hormone that only contributes to baldness, prostate problems, and acne.	If you care about your sex life and you think that suppressing your DHT level will produce only beneficial effects, I have some bad news for you: testosterone is not the only androgen that is important to sex. I discuss this in The Science of Sex.
My choice of soap is irrelevant.	Not true. Are you incredulous that something as seemingly trivial as a choice of soap could influence your sex life? If so, then you should read what I have to say about this matter in my book.
My diet cannot affect my sex life.	Yes it can, on both a short-term level, and long-term level.
My doctor will surely discover any diseases I have that may affect my sex life.	What an optimist you are! In The Science of Sex, I discuss some diseases that doctors often overlook.
Oysters deserve their reputation for being a food that may improve sexuality.	Not true, because they often contain unacceptably high levels of cadmium, a toxic mineral that can wreak havoc with your body in many ways, including sexually. This is discussed in detail in my book.
If a person's testosterone level is OK, then his or her testosterone effects will also be fine.	Not necessarily true. There are many people who go through life shortchanged in this regard who could have better bodies, sexuality, and emotional lives if their physicians also heeded some other factors that I explain in The Science of Sex.
Licorice is just candy.	And Bill Gates is just another business owner.
Since vegetables are healthy foods, they're good for my sex life.	Not always true, as I discuss in my book.
Nonprescription drugs are too weak to influence sexuality.	Another invalid overgeneralization.
Some prescription drugs can hamper sexuality, but those negative effects wear off if the drugs are discontinued.	Not always true. Unless you want to risk decimating your sexual pleasure for years to come, you should look before you leap. In The Science of Sex, I finger the worst offenders.
The clitoris is a small bud of erectile tissue located near the anterior commissure of the labia minora.	That is just the tip of the iceberg. In The Science of Sex, you'll meet the rest of the clitoris.
It doesn't matter if I drink coffee out of a ceramic mug or a styrofoam cup.	Yes it does, as you'll discover in my book.
Walking around a golf course is great exercise that could only help my sex life, not hurt it.	Not true. Find out why in The Science of Sex.
I can't do anything to make my orgasms longer or more intense.	Another common misconception that I address in my book.
Alfalfa sprouts deserve their healthy reputation.	Trust me — after you read The Science of Sex, you'll never again touch them!
It is possible to be a great lover without knowing much about nerve receptors.	In just about every conceivable activity, people who perform the best know what they're doing. Sex is no exception, so I explain this topic in my book.
Melatonin helps improve sexuality.	Hogwash. Yet another topic in The Science of Sex.
Other than taking a vacation in a warm, sunny location, you can't do much to improve your libido.	Utter nonsense. The Science of Sex contains countless tips on how you can stimulate your libido, and that of your partner.

Although this list is just a small fraction of the material that I cover in my book, it should give you an inkling that I won't bore you and waste your time by just rehashing what other sexologists have said. If you aren't already convinced, my Qualifications page presents other reasons why I am qualified to write on the subject of sexuality . . . and why some "sexperts" have very flimsy qualifications.

You are probably thinking, "I don't need to buy his book. I can read about sex for free on thousands of web sites."

Yes, you can, but even if you spent the rest of your life doing that, you still wouldn't know many of the things in my book. No doctor in the world knows more about sexual pleasure than I do. Don't believe me? Then read some books by various experts on sex, check out a thousand sexual web sites, and then read my book. You will be stunned by how much more I know. Here's what one reader said:

"This book completely blows away any other sex book, by a country mile. To borrow an old European country saying: first comes this book, then there's a loooooong stretch where there's nothing . . . then there's a big pile of manure . . . then another long stretch of nothing . . . then every other book on the market. Well, it's funnier in German. :-) Anyway, you can go to any bookstore, and replace the entire sex section with this book."

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If you find a book with a more comprehensive and detailed presentation of sexual pleasure, performance, attraction, and desire, tell me about it and I will refund your entire purchase price. I can confidently make this offer because I've read hundreds of competitive books and have yet to find one that is even remotely comparable. I've spent years of 100-hour weeks working on this book, while some others in this genre appear to have been thrown together over a long weekend. No reader has yet been able to suggest a comparable book. Besides the fact that I cover more subjects in more detail and present information that you cannot obtain elsewhere (unless someone is copying me), I also correct some pervasive sexual fallacies (for examples of some of them, see above).

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